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Other friends and acquaintances were less caustic in their criticism, however; Gary Fisketjon, who published her later novels through Knopf, said that "she was rough, very difficult... but she was also plainspoken, dryly funny, and great fun to be around."<ref name=autogenerated1 />
Though she had occasional relationships with men, Highsmith was a lesbian, and never married or had children. In 1943 she had an affair with the artist Allela Cornell (who subsequently committed [[suicide]] in 1946 by drinking [[nitric acid]]<ref>Wilson, A. ''Beautiful Shadow: A Life of Patricia Highsmith''. Bloomsbury, London. 2004.</ref>) and in 1949, she became close to novelist Marc Brandel. Between 1959 and 1961 she had a relationship with [[Marijane Meaker]], who wrote under the pseudonyms of Vin Packer and Ann Aldrich, but later wrote young adult fiction with the name M.E. Kerr. Meaker wrote of their affair in her memoir ''Highsmith: A Romance of the 1950s''. In
"Highsmith was never comfortable with blacks, and she was outspokenly anti-semitic — so much so that when she was living in Switzerland in the 1980s, she invented nearly 40 aliases, identities she used in writing to various government bodies and newspapers, deploring the state of Israel and the 'influence' of the Jews"<ref>http://www.nytimes.com/2009/12/20/books/review/Winterson-t.html?ref=review</ref>. Nevertheless, some of her best friends were [[Jewish]], such as author [[Arthur Koestler]], and admired Jewish writers such as [[Franz Kafka]] and [[Saul Bellow]]. She was accused of [[misogyny]] because of her satirical collection of short stories ''Little Tales of Misogyny''.